You’ve gained so much over the last year, separately and together. What have you lost, separately and together?

One of the beautiful consequences of putting this post together is it’s given us the opportunity to skim pictures that we haven’t looked through in almost a year. There is so much that we both have gained over the past year. Much of which has not been shared. So many incredible people, places and things that have fallen through the cracks of time. Though you accurately acknowledge that we’ve indeed gained so much, I just wanted to, myself, reiterate that this has been a year full of lifelong memories and gains – many of whom don’t get acknowledged.

The easy answer to your question is time. Time with our families. On Ashlie’s side, nieces and nephews have been born, have began walking, talking and growing like weeds. And, unfortunately, on my side, both my parents have been dealing with more than just minor health issues. Certainly one of the pitfalls of being so far away, for so long, is the desperately helpless feeling that comes when your loved ones are in a time of need and support.

What have we lost together? Perspective and personal space. We are together all the time. So much so that we are considering spending a few weeks apart once we leave Nepal. Not necessarily needing or wanting to be away from one another, but wanting and needing to be alone. A little time for the both of us to be selfish, if you will. To not have to consider the other’s wants and needs every minute of every day. Also providing us with the opportunity to miss one another – something that being together 24/7 just doesn’t allow for.

Good question, Christo!

-Adrian

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